Big And Happy

I must have been ten years old when I overheard an older cousin of mine say “I bet Tova will struggle with her weight her entire life, just like her mother”. I had no idea what he meant obviously—as far as I was concerned, there was nothing wrong with my weight just like I didn’t see anything wrong with my mom’s either. I was just another average looking ten year old who loved skipping rope and playing hide and seek, as well as eating ice cream on hot days. But…

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#RealityDad – Dear Men: We Need to Stop Saying, “Not All Men”

#RealityMoms is pleased to be featuring our first #RealityDad post today from writer Mike Cruse of Papa Does Preach. By now, I’m certain you’ve heard the recent offensive and demeaning comments made by Donald Trump. Oh, I’m sorry, I know that was vague, what, with that kind of thing being a daily occurrence now. Of course, I’m referencing the comments made on audio from an appearance on Access Hollywood in 2005, where Mr. Trump bragged about trying to sleep with a married woman, and went on to admit being a…

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The Words She Keeps

I was in eighth grade when I overheard a group of boys discussing their female classmates in the library. I sat frozen in a cubby desk hidden from their view. I attempted to finish a make-up vocabulary test, but my focus disappeared as I listened to their words. “The new girl is cute, but a little chubby. Sometimes she is pretty, but other days, I don’t know.” I felt the young man’s words cut through my skin and consume my thoughts. I looked down at my thighs and noticed their…

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Respecting Boundaries: My Daughter isn’t A Hugger

When my daughter was a toddler, she was fond of giving big, sloppy kisses on your mouth—or your ear, cheek, foot… Really, the kid was a smooching machine and I loved every minute of it. I loved her tiny lips pressed against mine as she demanded: “One more kiss, Mumma! Mummmaaa! One more kiss!” She kissed grandparents, friends, toys, animals- and probably people at the grocery store when I wasn’t looking. She loved to show affection by kissing anyone and everything. As she aged into elementary school, her big, sloppy…

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Promoting Good Body Images: The #ILikeMe Movement

While perusing the Internet I came across this article, “Neck contouring is the ridiculous beauty trend taking Instagram by storm.” My first reaction was to laugh. There was no way this was real. It had to be a joke. My next reaction was complete dismay. I soon realized that this is indeed happening. No joke. Women are contouring their necks to ensure it looks slim and perfect. This is a thing. Is this what I have to look forward to when my daughter is a teenager? Making sure her neck…

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