Are You Proud of Your Kids? Maybe You Shouldn’t Be

When my daughter Allegra was a wee thing, and she experienced an achievement—stacking a high block onto the top of a tower, getting all her shirts tucked away into a closet cubicle, having a teacher write “Good job!” on the top of a submitted paper—my first reaction was to compliment her with “I’m so proud of you.” That’s what I knew from my youth: “I’m proud of you” was a sought-after goal. Hearing someone say I’d made him or her feel proud was the external validation to chase. But then….

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Motherhood Moments: He Listened

You know those moments in motherhood when you don’t know if you’ve made an impact on your kids? That moment when you wonder if you even contributed one thing to the development of his young mind? Yeah. I often wonder that with my sports prodigy of a son. No, seriously. He is a bit of a freak for an eight-year-old and how he can spout out the mouth every player ever played…their best game of all time, their stats, and even their mothers name. (OK, maybe not the last one,…

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