When Parenting Took Over my Marriage
Every new parent goes through that phase when marriage inadvertently crawls to sulk in a dark corner of the basement, hidden by cobwebs, grieving alone.
Every new parent goes through that phase when marriage inadvertently crawls to sulk in a dark corner of the basement, hidden by cobwebs, grieving alone.
Unlike the weather, you can change the conditions in your marriage. You can decide to have a relationship that’s sunny and clear.
By the time my divorce was over, I didn’t feel the huge sense of loss I expected would come with losing someone in your life in that way.
Some of my best friends are people I’ve never met. I don’t mean that in a “strangers are just friends you haven’t made yet” sort of way. They’re from the internet.
I thought that as an adult, I was done with panic attacks. I was cocky, hadn’t had one in years, I was so obviously over them. But when your life is somehow upended, the dormant ways float back to the surface.
The two experiences in my life that have shown me that I am stronger than I think am: childbirth and divorce. And when you think about it, those two processes have a lot of similarities.
I sound like a broken record, even to myself. But what is my alternative? I need to teach my children how to speak to me so I can hear them.
My mom was the type of woman who exuded class. She got up every morning and went through the ritual of “getting ready” even when we had no plans to leave the house.
Saying goodnight to my daughter is always, um, an adventure.
Yes, some parents are the sole parent 100% of the time. But I would argue that single parenthood includes a wider cross-section of parents.
Every new parent goes through that phase when marriage inadvertently crawls to sulk in a dark corner of the basement, hidden by cobwebs, grieving alone.
Unlike the weather, you can change the conditions in your marriage. You can decide to have a relationship that’s sunny and clear.
By the time my divorce was over, I didn’t feel the huge sense of loss I expected would come with losing someone in your life in that way.
Some of my best friends are people I’ve never met. I don’t mean that in a “strangers are just friends you haven’t made yet” sort of way. They’re from the internet.
I thought that as an adult, I was done with panic attacks. I was cocky, hadn’t had one in years, I was so obviously over them. But when your life is somehow upended, the dormant ways float back to the surface.
The two experiences in my life that have shown me that I am stronger than I think am: childbirth and divorce. And when you think about it, those two processes have a lot of similarities.
I sound like a broken record, even to myself. But what is my alternative? I need to teach my children how to speak to me so I can hear them.
My mom was the type of woman who exuded class. She got up every morning and went through the ritual of “getting ready” even when we had no plans to leave the house.
Saying goodnight to my daughter is always, um, an adventure.
Yes, some parents are the sole parent 100% of the time. But I would argue that single parenthood includes a wider cross-section of parents.