Coparenting After Divorce: Learning To Coparent Alone

The word coparenting is a lie, really. Coparenting is generally defined as a parenting situation where two or more adults work together to raise a child even though they are not necessarily the biological parents, living together or in a romantic relationship. This implies a kind of rosy glow over the group and kindly includes stepparents and others as well. But, in my experience, coparenting doesn’t always mean two people working together. In our house, for a long time, coparenting meant one person working alone.

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7 Ways to Be More Positive About Your Marriage Right Now

I rolled my eyes, bent over and snatched the terrycloth heap off the floor. His robe lay on the floor beside the bed exactly where he’d dropped it the night before. And there it would’ve stayed unless I picked it up. He’d already gone to work. “In addition to changing diapers, taking care of kids, and cooking the meals,” I thought, “he expects me to pick up after him, too?” Sound familiar? We (my husband and I) were weathering a stormy season in our marriage. We had young children; he…

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Fifteen Years Married

It was our fifth anniversary and I was a few months pregnant with our second child and we had a toddler at our newly purchased home. I think we went out for dinner, but honestly can’t really remember. See, I was tired that year. In fact, I was tired for almost a decade. It was deeply, overwhelmingly exhausted. My body was tired, my brain was tired. Every part of my soul was fighting to keep myself present and alive. I remember how hard it was. How my husband and I…

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My Husband, the Superhero

My husband has a very unique, and what I consider to be special, superhero-type quality. Among the gazillion other assets he totes around like it’s nothing, his ability to tune into the moisture content of my environment thrills me to no end. How does he know the rain’s coming, why is it time to suddenly shut all the windows, who would I personally be without his guidance in this area of my life, I doubt I could make it alone without all his expertise, I always think. I used to…

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The ‘Crazy’ Moments (As Told by a Psychologist)

We all have ‘crazy’ moments. It was the middle of the 2015 blizzard affectionately referred to by Marylanders as “snowmaggedon.” Naturally, my husband and I felt it was a good idea to schlep our three kids through three-feet-deep snow on a three-mile-round-trip hike. Good sledding hills are an important part of childhood. It was the middle of the 2015 blizzard affectionately referred to by Marylanders as “snowmaggedon.” Naturally, my husband and I felt it was a good idea to schlep our three kids through three-feet-deep snow on a three-mile-round-trip hike….

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