When you think you’re holding space for someone and you’re preoccupied with something else, you’re really not holding space.
Take your kids something they forgot, you are not teaching them responsibility. Help with homework, you are a Tiger Mom. Go overboard on a school project, you’re doing it to make yourself look good. Sign your kid up for too many activities, you’re going to stress them out.
The word co-parenting is a lie. In my experience, co-parenting doesn’t always mean two people working together. In our house, for a long time, co-parenting meant one person working alone.
Literally everyone will tell you how hard it is. Our own mothers and fathers were among the first to remind us during some tumultuous moment in our upbringing that we weren’t delivered with manuals.