If you are a fan of college sports, you’ve likely heard the term “redshirting” referring to keeping a college athlete out of competition for a year in order to develop their skills without losing a year of playing eligibility.
If you are the parent of a five-year-old with a summer birthday, you might have also heard of it in terms of kindergarten.
Redshirting for Kindergarten has become a popular topic in suburban America as some parents worry about giving their children an academic leg up, and others fear pushing a young child too quickly into an increasingly more academic kindergarten environment.
In my world (in mommy terms) it’s the decision about whether or not my July birthday boy is really ready to start big-boy school. I mean, he’s my baby!
But really, I’m ready. I think. He’s in preschool five days a week now, so the move to kindergarten really isn’t that different. But he just seems so young compared to the other kids starting kindergarten this fall. I know eventually a nine or ten-month age difference won’t matter, but when you’ve only been alive for five years, it’s kind of a big deal!
Like any good mom, I’ve surveyed the Facebook community, and my friends and family on the subject and the opinions are split. Some say, “He’s five, send him!” and “I had a summer birthday and started school when I had just turned five, and I turned out okay.”
Others were the opposite, in most cases sighting maturity and not academics, which is the issue I’m dealing with as well. He knows his letters, can count to one-hundred, and at times seems to read sight words better than his second-grade sister, but he just seems so young! (Did I say that already?)
And the actual research seems to be split on the subject too. While the kids held back a year do tend to do better academically, is that because they truly weren’t ready, or because now they are a year older than their peers? And do I want my kid to be that kid–the oldest one in class?
We all want what’s best for our kids, and right now I think the best thing is to wait. An extra year in preschool won’t hurt my son, and (hopefully) will help him gain the maturity I think he needs to survive the transition to elementary school. And maybe I’m not quite ready to let go of my little guy quite yet.
What do you think? Did you hold your child with a summer birthday back for a year? Are you glad you did?
Author: Lynne Getz
Lynne Getz is a caffeine-addicted mom of three smack dab in the middle of her midlife crisis. She blogs about motherhood – the good, the bad, and the crazy – and celebrates moms who get shit done at Like A Mother. She’s not the best dancer, but that doesn’t stop her from shaking her ass to a good nineties dance mix. And it’s that ass shaking attitude that helps her manage a son with special needs, a sassy daughter, a wild child preschooler, and her man child husband without losing what’s left of her sanity. You can follow her on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.