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Open Letter to the Lazy Mother in the Grocery Store

Dear Lazy Mother in the Grocery Store, I saw you. Lunchables? Really? I heard your kid whining for popsicles. I saw you reach into the freezer and ask which type. As you left the store with your too-big kid sitting in the cart, asking a million questions, I saw you close your eyes and take a deep breath before saying, “Just… because. That’s just how it is.” You didn’t even give her a real answer. I saw you. I see you. I am you. There is a pervasive assumption that…

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I Love Spending Time Without My Kids

I just turned 41, and for my 41st birthday, I ran away from home. I checked into a hotel, drank mimosas next to the pool, took a 30 minute shower, ate breakfast in my bed, and never once turned on the TV. It was blissful…for me. I know there are many women who can’t imagine leaving their kids for two days to go to a hotel. They will tell you that their husband can’t handle it, or that they can’t afford it, or make any number of excuses. For that…

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It’s Time to Redefine “Mom Hair”

The term “mom hair” is often used to refer to a very short haircut, as it is stereotypically assumed that most women chop their long locks off after having a baby in order to be lower maintenance. This implied phenomenon was even the topic of a frivolous, and somewhat offensive, article in the New York Times back in June. However, this is not what “mom hair” means to me. To me, “mom hair” means hair that is way too long and far too neglected. I have not had a haircut…

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True #RealityMoms: Carrie Fisher and Debbie Reynolds

I don’t normally stop my life to write about the loss of a celebrity but for some reason, my heart is so incredibly sad right now. I had come to be enamored by Carrie Fisher not because she played Princess Leia in Star Wars, but because she was never afraid of talking about her mental health. Carrie Fisher died on December 27, 2016 after having a heart attack on a flight to LA from London. If you live under a rock, you might have missed the story.  But the real…

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Becoming a ‘Real’ Mom

“Real isn’t how you are made,’ said the Skin Horse. ‘It’s a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real.’ ‘Does it hurt?’ asked the Rabbit. ‘Sometimes,’ said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. ‘When you are Real you don’t mind being hurt.’ ‘Does it happen all at once, like being wound up,’ he asked, ‘or bit by bit?’ ‘It doesn’t happen all at once,’ said the Skin…

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