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Hey Jealousy: Longing for the Good Life

Our friends just bought a beach house and I am so jealous I can’t see straight. I can’t even talk about it without becoming instantly grouchy. It’s petty and unbecoming and true. Apparently, I desperately want a beach house. This is surprising because until now, I’ve been vaguely anti-beach house. I’ve ranted about maintenance hassles and being tied down to one vacation spot. I believe beach houses drain bank accounts and trying to recoup that money by renting brings wear and tear and strangers in your bed. A beach house…

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Hungry for More Than This Adventureless Marriage

After a decade of marriage, birthing four mini-me’s, and turning into a SAHM, I am beyond hungry. Starving, actually. My appetite has become insatiable and my cravings unsurmountable. Yet, it isn’t food that I am in need of to satisfy these hunger pangs. Not in the least. I am hungry for passion. Intimacy. Emotional stimulation. I am desiring the sex life of my wildest fantasies come true and then some. I want to reawaken the woman inside of me. The one I laid to rest in order to transform into…

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A Letter to My Children: Six Things To Look For in a Life Partner

A letter to my children about love: I want all three of you to know what love is.  I hope that you never have the opportunity to learn from experience what it isn’t.  My wish for you is that you find a life partner who understands you right through to your soul.  Below is a list of things you should look for in a life mate. Understanding.  Sometimes even without speaking.  Do not marry anyone until you have experienced this feeling with them. Support.  This does not mean that your…

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When Is It Appropriate To Ask “Are You About To Get Your Period?”

I have been asked, many times, if I was about to get my period by well-meaning men. I think the men who ask this kind of question just have not been schooled. So, as a giver of gifts and a saver of relationships, I thought I would lay it out in an easy-to-read format. These are the rules boys. Live by them and no one gets hurt. Is it appropriate to ask, “Are You About To Get Your Period?” when my wife/girlfriend disagrees with me? This is tricky. If she…

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How I Learned to Spell Love

In my forty-nine years on this planet, I have had the chance to meet some amazing people and make a lot of good friends. Some have lasted beyond time and circumstance, while others have ended naturally after school, or a move or job change. A few ended painfully. But there is one friend whose effect on me was so profound that I think of her often. Carol and I were in the same afternoon kindergarten class. She was my ideal of what a girl should look and be like. Her…

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