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An Apology To My Preemie

We will stand in awe of the joy you pour into everyone you meet; your constant grin a testament to the endurance of babies. I wish I had half of your resilience, but my happiness is tempered with guilt. So much guilt. I’m sorry. I’m sorry my body failed you. I’m sorry that I couldn’t keep you safe. Protecting my children is a most fundamental desire—but we had to keep me healthy so that I could be there to see you grow up. You were comfortable in your cozy uterine…

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#RealMomHacks: 10 Simple Steps to Help Your Kids Adjust to Daylight Savings Time

It’s almost time to switch the clocks again, and as amazing as it is to play outside after work because there is still light in the sky, the process of getting to that point can be painful. Luckily for you, I have come up with simple steps for successfully adjusting to daylight savings time. As long as your definition of success is very, very loose. Start sometime in January. By adjusting one minute per day it’ll be easy peasy. After three weeks, realize you were moving the wrong direction. Spring…

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Open Letter to the Lazy Mother in the Grocery Store

Dear Lazy Mother in the Grocery Store, I saw you. Lunchables? Really? I heard your kid whining for popsicles. I saw you reach into the freezer and ask which type. As you left the store with your too-big kid sitting in the cart, asking a million questions, I saw you close your eyes and take a deep breath before saying, “Just… because. That’s just how it is.” You didn’t even give her a real answer. I saw you. I see you. I am you. There is a pervasive assumption that…

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Puppy Surprise Is Everything Wrong With Maternity Care in America

I recently found myself wrist-deep in a dog’s uterus. (Editor’s note: Brace yourself. There’s a graphic photo below.) You see, my daughter had her sights set on one toy this Christmas. She talked about it nonstop for months. In her sprawling first grade handwriting, she wrote Santa a letter. She even drew a picture, in case he had trouble reading her words, “I want a rainbow Puppy Surprise.” Have you seen these things? Friends tell me they have existed off and on for years but appear to have made a…

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What You Need to Know About Lactation Donation

Rowan was born just under the concern-threshold for both age and weight for many complications of prematurity. The cut off for many issues is 32 weeks and/or 1500 grams. Rowan was 31 weeks 5 days, and 1446 grams. Not that issues don’t happen after that line, just they had to draw a line somewhere. And obviously younger, smaller babies are more likely to have these complications. Aside from brain bleeds, Necrotizing Enterocolitis (NEC) is one of the biggest complications seen in premature infants. It’s the one that makes providers sweat….

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