Are You Proud of Your Kids? Maybe You Shouldn’t Be

When my daughter Allegra was a wee thing, and she experienced an achievement—stacking a high block onto the top of a tower, getting all her shirts tucked away into a closet cubicle, having a teacher write “Good job!” on the top of a submitted paper—my first reaction was to compliment her with “I’m so proud of you.” That’s what I knew from my youth: “I’m proud of you” was a sought-after goal. Hearing someone say I’d made him or her feel proud was the external validation to chase. But then….

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Treasuring My Mommy Memories and The Last Times

Mommy loves you. Daddy loves you. The kitty cats love you. We all love you very much. Now it’s time to go to sleep. I paused, pulled the blanket to her chin and carefully tucked the sides around her chunky little legs. Good night, my sweet angel. It was to be my daughter’s last night in her crib, and the first “last” I truly stopped to take in. That night dinner waited in the oven, an article remained unwritten on my computer, and an unbuilt toddler bed sat upstairs, but…

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Easy Ways to Make or Save Money This Summer

If you’re looking for a few easy ways to make or save money this summer, keep reading—I’ve got a few ideas that will let you have fun without breaking the bank or blowing the budget. Summer time fun doesn’t have to be expensive to be enjoyable. It’s all about savoring the moments and the activities you most enjoy. Focus on the experiences rather than on what you’re buying. Save Money This Summer Whether you’re saving money for your first home, a vacation or simply to pay down your debts, you…

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On Growing Into My Motherhood

At 24, home meant a rundown farm house that was a bit off the grid in the Maryland countryside. My partner and I had been together only a few months and hastily moved there when I discovered I was pregnant. The house belonged to my grandfather, a wealthy lawyer with a taste for liquor which I’d undoubtedly inherited. He was now living in a nursing home, suffering end-stage dementia. Though its carpet smelled like mildew and the spiders were as big as my fist, that house was our saving grace….

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A Summer Bucket List for Mom

Every summer I vow to make a summertime bucket list with my family. Have you ever seen one? They’re a list of ideas to spark a summer full of enjoyment and learning. They can be as ambitious as a trip abroad, as fun as a day at the zoo, or as simple as a campout in the backyard. Maybe there’s a series of books you would like to read as a family. You could try every flavor of ice cream at Baskin Robbins or Ben & Jerry’s. The goals’ budget…

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